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	debett2 says: 10/08/2008	I feel the same way. I am beginning a quest to get my life in order also. I have started a journal. I never thought it would help to put pen to paper, but I am seeing the benefit. I am finding that as I write my thoughts and feelings on paper I am doing it with the thought that someday someone might see it which makes me be more honest and fair. If I write how terribly someone has wronged me, I feel I must state how I might have contributed or misunderstood their words or actions. Somehow it helps. Try it, it might help you to focus on what you really think and feel about situations. This life list....it also helps to focus on where you want to go. I am optimistic. I hope this helps and doesnt sound preachy.
	blueandspike says: 02/27/2008	I was afraid to even list 'take control of my life" as a goal. It seemed to be an admission of how out of control I was. When I saw it listed as a top goal and started reading comments and suggestions it was such a relief! I actually feel less pressure to have more control of my life just knowing that others feel the same. Not feeling bad or like a freak actually has helped me get out of my own way so I can get the control I'm looking for.
	Anonymous says: 08/30/2007	Controll over life isn`t controlling something out there somewhere.You can`t always do enough out there to help but you can make yourself the best you can and develope your talents to share with the world. Controll is knowing what you can do and letting go of what you can do nothing about.That was hard for me to learn http://www.hoteltravelvietnam.com http://www.vietnamtripadvisor.com http://www.halongluxurytravel.com
	vhammes65 says: 06/11/2007	I have just started taking stock of my life. A little background information might be helpful. My oldest child graduated from high school in May. This is the child that I have run after from the time he was old enough to play T-ball and I have been on a non-stop roller coaster ride until this May. Almost dead stop. Dead stop has given me the time and mental capacity (some may laugh at that) to think about what I want, when I want it, how I want it, did I ever want it, etc. The biggest thing I have noticed is my ability to say no to those in my family is becoming a wonderful thing. No is a realitively simple word but gosh is it hard to make your lips for those words and then get your brain and heart to committ to seeing it through. It can be done. I am taking baby steps. For instance, I purchased a repair manual for my son's 1993 Dodge Shadow. I made him do the lion's share of running around looking for the repair manual but it ended up being me to pick the darn thing up because I was closest, yada, yada, yada.. Anyway, my son thanks me for the book and I promptly tell him he owes me $19.25. He said yeah, mom later. So..........some days later he asked me for a favor and I replied "Oh, I can do that for you later." He says he needs it now and I told him it didn't really fit into my schedule to do it now because I was busy relaxing but would be most happy to get it later at my convenience. He became very upset and it took him only 2 more days to figure out this was one of those lessons from mom. He has paid me the $20 and all is right with the world. But obviously this is a small baby step and I know there are a mulittude of challenges out there waiting to test my mettle. Bring'em on!!!!!!!
	love4everdaisy says: 01/25/2007	I am 25 years old and I think if I wouldv'e stopped when I was a teen in High School I wouldn't be who I am today. Stand up for yourself. Think first when someone asks you to do something or for something, "How will this benefit me?" It is not selfish. It is self control and self-confidence. Also, say no. Right now, because everyone knows that I am a push over, if I say no or stand up for myself, they see me being rude because it is uncommon behavior. Stop now, before it is to late. Being TOO Nice is just as harmful as being mean and rude.
	flowers2006 says: 03/13/2006	I had a habit of getting into everyone else`s problems.Some sort of cyber nanny to one and all.I bet others have done this too.Well it`s all well and good but I left myself behind and now find I have a big gap between dreams and actual goals being done. Tips? I`d say realize that you have to help ourselves first.My Dad went around and helped people,well all well and good but Dad started to get wrapped up in world out there and not taking care of himself.Well it`s a family thing,the worrying about everyone and everything.I want to get over this family trait and learn to focus on GOALS. Learn to play a musical instrument even though I`m no music genius LOL! Learn a language.

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	Anonymous says: 01/27/2008	I think my problem isn't only control over my own life, but learning to accept myself for who I am. I often feel bad about things or afraid. Even when the waitress in the diner waits on me, I feel bad that someone is waiting on me. It is like I feeling of guilt I have. Maybe it is a woman thing. The need to smile, be happy all the time and please people and jump up and down when they ask. You don't have to be nice for someone else. Instead of just sometimes letting who you really are out. If people don't like you so be it. It is funny though I was reading my journal lately and things that scared me when I was 19 don't even phase me now at 34.
	legallybrunette281 says: 11/21/2006	how do I do this if im even a teenager???
	flowers2006 says: 03/13/2006	Controll over life isn`t controlling something out there somewhere.You can`t always do enough out there to help but you can make yourself the best you can and develope your talents to share with the world. Controll is knowing what you can do and letting go of what you can do nothing about.That was hard for me to learn.