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Early Thanksgiving Thanks

thanksgiving on supervivaIt’s often more the seemingly little things that bring cause to give thanks. You can see by my list:

10. I’m thankful I achieved my goal to make 5 great new friends this year. Some were people I already knew and got to know better. Others were brand new.
9. I’m especially thankful to have met some great, supportive, interesting fans of SuperViva.
8. I’m thankful to be in a wonderful household.
7. I’m happy to be doing work that I love and that proactively pursuing this work paid off. (They weren’t posted jobs. Network!)
6. I’m very thankful to have been extremely healthy all year as have most of my friends and family.
5. I’m thankful to have the power of introspection and resilience.
4. I’m thankful that Firefox has a built-in spell checker that told me I was wildly off base in spelling resilience, and that so many useful Internet tools are available these days. (Another blog post to come on that.)
3. I’m thankful we all have HOPE with a new president and that I was able to learn about “hope” today, which I’ll write about separately.
2. I’m thankful to have re-invigorated interest and motivation to continue SuperViva and that the ad revenue is slowly increasing!
1. I’m thankful that you’re reading this and hope it inspires you to make a list of what you’re thankful about :)

Oh, and you can be thankful the economy is inspiring amazing Black Friday deals on Amazon.

November 25th, 2008 | Leave a Comment

Daily Gratitude Habit Is Easier Than You Think

farmers market fruitI’m grateful for the amazing bounty of fresh fruits and vegetables this year!


A study by Dr. Michael McCollough, of Southern Methodist University in Dallas, Texas, and Dr. Robert Emmons, of the University of California at Davis, in which several hundred people kept a daily log of things they were grateful for, concluded that “daily gratitude exercises resulted in higher reported levels of alertness, enthusiasm, determination, optimism and energy.”

At first, listing what you’re grateful for daily could appear to be yet another task you won’t get to. Tim Ferriss points out that “gratitude training” is the way to go, to make counting your blessings as routine as doing sit ups (or perhaps more routine for some!)

So here is a real-world example of how, if you break it down to the tiny things, you really can find things to be grateful for:

  • I’m grateful for the nice evening light that caused me to open the curtains.
  • I’m grateful my food is taking so long to cook, we settled on the couch to watch the DNC on tv.
  • I’m grateful for my sense of humor that made me point out a man standing across the street, jokingly saying he was looking into the house.
  • I’m grateful my friend had the presence of mind to shout out “I think he’s giving me a ticket!”
  • I’m grateful that the parking person kindly let us off the hook. (It was a bizarre unobvious red zone in front of a stairway.)

In the September 2008 O Magazine, Oprah gives some good examples from her own gratitude journal:
“I am grateful for my breath and the recognition that I am here alive. Breathing. I am grateful for life. And for this time alone.”

OK a little deeper than my examples. But see how easy it is to find things to be grateful for?

Getting in the Gratitude Habit

What better use of Twitter, or status messages on your social networks, than to blast what you’re feeling grateful for? I know I know…there are better uses but it’s a good one!

A bunch of people have goals on SuperViva to feel more grateful or to start a gratitude journal.

The idea of seeing thousands of things I’m grateful for compiled does seem amazing. For now, I will at least continue counting my blessings to fall asleep. Sheep are so last millennium.

August 26th, 2008 | Leave a Comment

Making the Hard Decision of When to Quit

When you’ve embarked on a serious, ambitious effort—especially one that was a major life goal—it’s hard to think that one day you might want to stop, that it no longer serves your original purpose.

It could be a relationship, a hobby, entrepreneurial endeavor or a career.

Having often thought about where to go with SuperViva, the conundrum currently facing Pandora, an awesome online radio service, really struck me:

“At the moment we think this problem in Washington is not going to get solved,” Pandora’s founder Tim Westergren told the Post, “we have to pull the plug because all we’re doing is wasting money.”

What about rallying for donations from the public ala Wikipedia?
Or from Apple, on whose iPhone Pandora is an extremely popular application?
Or maybe it’s just gotten so exhausting that the Pandora team wants to quit?

While in the midst of my own backs and forths on where to go with SuperViva, someone gave me The Dip: A Little Book That Teaches You When to Quit (and When to Stick) by Seth Godin.

It took only about an hour or two to read and instigated some useful critical thinking. You’ll find such nuggets of wisdom as:

  • Quit the wrong stuff. Stick with the right stuff. Have the guts to do one or the other.
  • [Strategic] quitting is not the same as failing..Quitting smart is a great way to avoid failing.
  • Quitting is better than coping because quitting frees you up to excel at something else.

I highly recommend The Dip as well as these other books if you’re struggling with a big decision on which way to go, whether in business or your personal life:

August 19th, 2008 | Leave a Comment

What Kind of Tree Are You?

Oddly enough today I met a puppeteer on the street. Our conversation led to her saying she grew up in Massachusetts among birch trees. I exclaimed it was the third time in 2 weeks that “birches” had come up in conversation. She insisted I look up the symbolism of birches.

This concept tree symbolism was new to me, despite my long time in Berkeley ;)

The Celts and Tree Symbolism

One website translates Celtic beliefs to about birch trees as:

“a pioneer, courageously taking root and starting anew to revive the landscape where no other would before….The birch sings to us: Shine, take hold, express your creative expanse, light the way so that others may follow…Associated with the sun, the birch is a solar emblem, and facilitates passion, energy, as well as growth.”

MUCH more interesting than the typical description of my zodiac sign. Although I have no idea how “they” derived these interpretations. Let me know what happens when you try out “What’s your tree?” on someone in a bar.


One of few poems I fondly remember from school about youth and growing old…I hope you enjoy!

birchesBirches by Robert Frost
When I see birches bend to left and right
Across the lines of straighter darker trees,
I like to think some boy’s been swinging them.
But swinging doesn’t bend them down to stay.
Ice-storms do that. Often you must have seen them
Loaded with ice a sunny winter morning
After a rain. They click upon themselves
As the breeze rises, and turn many-coloured
As the stir cracks and crazes their enamel.
Soon the sun’s warmth makes them shed crystal shells
Shattering and avalanching on the snow-crust
Such heaps of broken glass to sweep away
You’d think the inner dome of heaven had fallen.
They are dragged to the withered bracken by the load,
And they seem not to break; though once they are bowed
So low for long, they never right themselves:
You may see their trunks arching in the woods
Years afterwards, trailing their leaves on the ground,
Like girls on hands and knees that throw their hair
Before them over their heads to dry in the sun.
But I was going to say when Truth broke in
With all her matter-of-fact about the ice-storm,
I should prefer to have some boy bend them
As he went out and in to fetch the cows–
Some boy too far from town to learn baseball,
Whose only play was what he found himself,
Summer or winter, and could play alone.
One by one he subdued his father’s trees
By riding them down over and over again
Until he took the stiffness out of them,
And not one but hung limp, not one was left
For him to conquer. He learned all there was
To learn about not launching out too soon
And so not carrying the tree away
Clear to the ground. He always kept his poise
To the top branches, climbing carefully
With the same pains you use to fill a cup
Up to the brim, and even above the brim.
Then he flung outward, feet first, with a swish,
Kicking his way down through the air to the ground.

So was I once myself a swinger of birches.
And so I dream of going back to be.
It’s when I’m weary of considerations,
And life is too much like a pathless wood
Where your face burns and tickles with the cobwebs
Broken across it, and one eye is weeping
From a twig’s having lashed across it open.
I’d like to get away from earth awhile
And then come back to it and begin over.
May no fate wilfully misunderstand me
And half grant what I wish and snatch me away
Not to return. Earth’s the right place for love:
I don’t know where it’s likely to go better.
I’d like to go by climbing a birch tree~
And climb black branches up a snow-white trunk
Toward heaven, till the tree could bear no more,
But dipped its top and set me down again.
That would be good both going and coming back.
One could do worse than be a swinger of birches.

(Indeed! –Susie) Do you have a birch tale?

July 8th, 2008 | Leave a Comment

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